Today I apologize in advance, this isn't too much of a D related post, just a bit of a pregnancy vent in general! 1stly, I am exhausted, I am only 17 weeks but can't believe how tired I have been for the last 4 weeks, I've just had a blood test which I think may have checked my iron levels but am hoping they can find a reason to explain this sudden onset of tiredness. It's been hanging around for a month now and I have been feeling sore all over, like I have run a marathon yet have not really done anything to cause such muscle pain? Also have had a sore throat which tends to come and go but again no big cold, sniffles or anything, just random soreness every now and then, Im not exactly a happy pregnant lady atm, I kinda wish everything would just go away right now :(
Sounds like you arnt having a very nice time :( Maybe the blood test will shed some light on this for you.
I know for me personally I didnt feel "normal" again until about 25w and then its gone again this week! (30w) I used to walk in the door at home at 6pm and go straight to bed, couldnt funtion any longer!!
I had the sniffes as well but they never turned into a cold, I read that us preggy ladies can just get extra snot!
Ellikus wrote:Next topic to have a whinge about is my partner. I feel like he is completely unsupportive of the pregnancy, me and the baby. He doesnt seem interested in coming to appts and has asked "can't you just bring me a picture home?" instead of wanting to actually see little nugget moving and kicking around. I bought him a book when I first told him i was pregnant, its called "dummies guide to pregnancy for dads" or something along those lines. Its not so much about the birth or looking after the baby, just a way for a man to prepare for all the changes, written from a mans point of view and explains ideas like how to support your partner through preg. I got him this book with the hope that it would maybe make him realise that I need a little support from time to time. He hasnt read a single page yet and when i discussed this with him recently he seemed to think i was being silly and that he doesnt need to read a book.
He still expects me to cook, clean, and all the rest, regardless of being sick, tired etc I am still expected to do everything, if I ask him to help either he says yes he will do it and doesnt, or argues it out until I end up doing it. Im finding it abit of an endless stuggle just to live atm. I am trying to support me, the baby, support him emotionally and feel like diabetes with pregnancy is a full time job, not to mention i already have a full time job. He has also not been dealing with the pregancy very well and been quite emotionally abusive at times, criticizing me, putting me down, calling names etc and in general behaving like a 3 yr old having a tantrum.
Hugs hun!! not advice here expect I would have slapped him by now!! Was he onboard with trying for a family at the start? Does he feel left out now as you are just trying to get through each day??
Ellikus wrote:Next issue: I work from 7.30am-4.30pm every day with only a half hr break for lunch. This is fine with me and I love my job but the problem is that we live in the gold coast and i work in brissy. It takes me an hr and half each way to and from work. we can easily afford to relocate closer to my work, he can easily get a job in brissy no worries but doesnt want to. I on the other hand have stuggled for over a year just to get work in general and the only place i can get work is brissy, the gold coast has very little available to me. If you look at it all up I am leaving the house at 6am and not returning till 6pm. I dont see how this is fair on me, we dont need the money but he had whinged black and blue about me giving up work just because of transport issues. I also dont want to give up my job because I love it but am just stuggling so much with the length of my days and cant understand why he wont put me and the baby first just for a short time and allow me to stay with a friend in brissy for a few months? (my job started early feb and finishes next wk as i am on a contract) we have discussed this several times and the conversation keeps going round in circles with the result being nothing changes and i remain here on the gold coast travelling three hours every day.
I would be staying with a friend in Bris, its to dangerous to drive while you are that tired. Even if you just stayed the Tues/Weds night it would take a huge amount of pressure from you. You need to think of yourself and the baby and what is best for you and right now it isnt doing the huge hours that you are. Can you go part time at work??
Ellikus wrote:I have suggested counselling but he refuses to go and thinks there is nothing to change and our relationship is "great". hmmm or not?? Arghh sorry for the vent, just needed to get it all out of my brain! Im sure this amount of stress isnt good for nugget :( any suggestions or advice is much appreciated, or just ears to listen would be great! really struggling with everything atm!!!!
More hugs for you!!! Stand up for yourself and nugget and do what you need to do to look after the both of you.xo
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